"you're imagining things"

Translation: By making you question what I did or said, I can challenge your perceptions and memories of the abuse you have experienced. If I make you feel like you're imagining things instead of finding evidence that I'm an abuser, you'll wonder if you're crazy.

"Common gaslighting answer: I'm just kidding. I'm not doing that. You're imagining things. You're with us. You're doing things in your head. You have problems. You don't get mad at anything. Let's do it all over again." .I never said that. You always have drama."

"you're overthinking this"

I think the problem with using the word "consider" is that (a) it's often used by people like "Greg" who are trying to get someone to question a perfectly reasonable question; (b) even if one is an "overthinker" , which is what they call it, which oversimplifies the complex web of underlying problem behaviors that really need to be addressed (like decision paralysis or overreaction or fear or procrastination etc.). Someone trying to help you with a problem will focus on helping you with the behavior, like in Dizzy's example, rather than flippantly telling you to think about it and do the following:: So called "helpers" - who plug in - yes - no Really helpful wish you did it here :: instead. In my personal experience, it's not a word that's used constructively most of the time, so when someone tries to tell me I'm overthinking, I'm extra vigilant and vigilant, *especially* when "stop saying it rethink "Time. Seems to stand for "do what I want without asking myself any further questions".

I think "overthinking" in a relationship context almost always means ignoring your feelings for the sake of mind exercising reality. In this case, I'd say it probably means that LW is arguing about the uncomfortable churning of red flag soup in her gut. Unfortunately, if LW is anything like me, they too have had the experience of missing a potential connection because they thought it over and decided: No, these I like you signals I'm getting aren't real! I will not go after them! This can be confusing when you expect unfortunate patterns of behavior to always have the same consequences.

"you're making this up"

Also, gas lighters are usually rejected. Typical statements are "you made it up" and "I never said that". The person disputes certain statements that have been made and circumstances that have arisen. result? You will doubt yourself! There's a lot of commotion because you wonder what the hell is going on. Maybe it's really your forgetfulness...before you know it, you start questioning everything, which naturally affects your confidence and self-esteem.

She felt something was wrong. He tries to tell her they know everything, spies. You are making this up. They don't know what you're talking about. It's gaslighting, and that's where the word really comes from. The problem is, you don't want to set yourself on fire. You don't want people to come to you, or even start subverting in your mind who you are and who you are.